If you’re looking for fancy pictures and Superman logos on this blog post, well, click away. This one’s all business on a VERY serious subject that I think needs to be addressed.
It’s always kind of a sad sight on facebook on Father’s Day compared to Mother’s Day.
“Happy Father’s Day to all the dads who deserve it,” seems to be a VERY common theme.
The sad part is, it’s true. Not everyone has a dad who’s worth a sh*t, who stuck around to be there for their kids, and DON’T deserve to be called a father.
There are also people who may have had their Dad’s pass away. One of my best friends lost his dad this year, and… well… let’s just say the world lost one hell of a man and one hell of a dad.
Father’s Day can be rough.
I’m blessed enough to have an awesome Dad (awesome is an incomprehensible understatement), and I really can’t explain how big of a part he’s been in my life. The lessons and morals he’s taught me over the years, the advice, the love and support, everything. He’s been there for me in every situation, and ALWAYS thinks of my brother and I first.
He STILL agonizes about when we were kids and he was working nights and weekends (he’s a self-employed veterinarian) and barely got to see us. He’d get home maybe an hour before bedtime, worked saturdays and sundays, emergencies when people would show up at 2AM wanting him to fix a cut up dog and not pay for it, etc.
At one point, he decided it wasn’t worth it anymore.
He stopped working weekends, turned away emergencies, and cut the hours on weekdays. If you know my dad, you know it is VERY hard for him to say no. But he made the choice of family first.
He made significantly less money, and wasn’t able to do some of the things he’s always wanted to do (it’s always been a dream of his to have a souped up Corvette), but he made sure he made enough for the family, and he always did.
The difference, now he was there in afternoons, teaching my brother and I how to throw a football and a baseball, taking us out to the country and teaching how to shoot, change the oil, drive a tractor, all kinds of fun stuff.
He taught me things like integrity, doing what you said you were going to do when you said you were going to do it, hard work, and self-reliance.
Now, you’re probably thinking “why the hell did he just say ‘Father’s day can be rough’ and go on to tell us how great his dad was?”
It’s simple, if you have someone who has taught you all of these things, if you have a great father figure, then TRY and consider what your life might be like if you didn’t have that in your life.
To be honest, I get very emotional very quickly when I think about it.
And, here’s the important part, that’s why I feel very strongly about why YOU, whoever the hell YOU are, should try and be someone’s mentor. BE THERE for someone other than yourself.
It can be in any situation. A sport, lifting weights, a job, school, etc. It can be anything.
Odds are there is SOMETHING you do that you’re good at, and someone younger and less experienced that could use a helping hand. Be there for them. You don’t have to baby them, tell them everything you know, or anything like that.
Just show that you care. It’s that simple.
I try make sure ALL of my athletes know that, as much as I joke with them and make them hate during a heavy squat and prowler session, I truly CARE about their success in both sports AND life. I want them to that hard work can take them places, that they aren’t stuck where they are unless they CHOOSE to be.
Some people aren’t in a position to be a mentor, but if you are, try and be there. You don’t need to be all “mushy-gushy” to have someone know that you care about their success. Just be there. Regardless of how bad you may think you have it, someone probably has it worse. Keep that in mind and try to be there for someone who needs a little guidance. Help someone else learn to be awesome, maybe one day they’ll have kids and their kiddos will be able to say “Happy Father’s Day” to a Dad worth saying it to, and that makes it all worth it, doesn’t it?